I found an article on Psychology Today and I now use it every night along with AIG to keep my mind and body on track!
Every night before I go to bed, I fill out a printout version of the below. I have added questions to make it more personal and I would recommend doing the same for you! At the bottom I always write my AIG(Affirmation, Intention, and Gratefulness). This has helped me SIGNIFICANTLY in falling asleep faster and having clear intentions for the next day. When writing this, be honest with yourself. This is for no one but you.
- Become mindful.
People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them.
What did I want today?
How did I feel today?
- Act on what you need rather than what you want.
You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
Did I make purchases I wanted but did not need?
- Practice good self-care.
You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy and healthy social interactions.
Have I had good hygiene today?
Did I sleep 6-8 hours last night?
Did I eat healthy today?
Did I exercise/stretch today?
Was I a good friend today?
- Set boundaries.
You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.
Did I allow someone to treat me like less today?
- Protect yourself.
Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies that I learned from my younger clients. It describes so well the type of “friends” who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them! There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, “I genuinely love myself and life”. You will love and respect yourself more.
Do I engage in an unhealthy relationship today?
- Forgive yourself.
We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.
Did I make mistakes today? If so, what?
Is it OK to make mistakes?
What did I learn from today’s mistakes?
- Live intentionally.
You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn’t have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this.
Grateful for (Today)-
Do you have a routine before bed like this? Is there anything you would add?
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